Words That Matter

“Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body.” Proverbs 16:24, ESV

On a recent trip to visit our grandson, we were amazed by the number of words he knows and how he puts together complex sentences.  He is learning to say “Excuse me, mommy” when he wants her attention (which is often!). Our daughter works with him to learn words that describe God, such as “faithful”.

Unfortunately, our culture is often full of unkind, harsh, and angry words.  When I’m around my grandkids, I am particularly aware of the words I use in speaking to them, about myself, and about others. But I don’t always get it right.

And to be honest, if I’m stressed or anxious, my thoughts can turn negative and harsh. And sometimes they flow into the words I use, especially toward my husband. What comes out of my mouth is not always gracious like a honeycomb, but more like a torrent of foolish speech.

“When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.” (Proverbs 10:19).

The book of Proverbs, especially chapter 16, has much to say about our speech.

The sweetness of speech from a discerning and wise heart increases persuasiveness. (vs. 21)

Judicious speech from the wise (vs. 23)

Speech like a scorching fire from a worthless man (vs. 27)

Dishonest speech spreads strife. (vs. 28)

Gossip (whisperer, ESV) separates close friends. (vs. 28)

Righteous lips and speaking what is right are a delight. (vs. 13)

The Bible abounds in wisdom about our use of words and how to transform our speech.

“Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God.” (Colossians 3:16, ESV)

I’m convinced that what we listen to and read shapes the words we use. This includes what we say and what we write – in texts and on social media.

What words do we allow in our mind and heart? Who and what are we listening to?

 In an effort to grow in using encouraging words with my grandkids, I am working through the book 8 Great Smarts by Kathy Koch, PhD. She says “smart” is a power word. Everyone (adults and kids alike) benefits from knowing they are gifted by God with different “intelligences,” even if they struggle in school or believe they aren’t smart.

I highly recommend this book!

It has opened my eyes to the “smarts” of kids and adults around me and gives me positive language to encourage them.

How about you, friend?

What is one step you can take today to speak and write using wise and gracious words? In prayer, we can ask the Holy Spirit to convict and guide us in the words we use each day.

Consider memorizing one of the Proverbs, such as 16:24, and visualize the words flowing out of you like honey.

Lord Jesus, help me today to use words that build others up. “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in your sight, O Lord, my rock and my redeemer.” (Psalm 19:14) Amen.